I’ve felt this way all the time before reading “The Best Yes.” This book really opened my eyes to how I was saying yes to ministries because I was feeling guilty. When the time came to do the work, I wasn’t enjoying them, I wasn’t passionate about them, and so I wasn’t putting my full energy into them. As a result I had to ask myself: was I really being a good “minister?”

Since reading the book I have been presented with 3 “opportunities” to volunteer. After a lot of time, discussion, and prayer, I said no each time.

The thing is, my husband and I are involved in a couple of ministries that we really do enjoy and that we really do have passion for. Because of that, we put a lot of energy into them and as a result we are doing really well in those ministries.

You ARE only one person! Keep reminding yourself of that.

It’s ok to be sad when our schedules don’t work out – but we should not feel guilty. But it’s easy to feel that pressure on you if the family or friends on the other side aren’t understanding of the situation.

It’s all about managing your priorities. The relationships {and ministries, and commitments} that matter the most to you should get more yeses than the others, for sure. You’ll love the book!

Lysa tackles tackles “guilt being a bad motivator for saying yes” in the book! 🙂

Family is probably the hardest to say no to. And of course we should not always say no. 🙂 Learning your boundaries, and then effectively communicating them with others, can be incredibly difficult…especially when they are related to you.

It can be very difficult to say no because we are afraid that others will feel that we are being selfish. One thing that we need to remember is that we do not answer to everyone else as to why we say no. We also need to remember that when someone says “no” to us, they don’t need to have a “good enough” reason for us either.

Proud of you for knowing your limits and saying no, even though it was difficult.

I started organizing mine by course and setting up their own little folder in my google drive/in my inbox. Now I can go through them one at a time. Currently I’m taking Living Well Spending Less unstuffed challenge :).